<h1 id="romance">Romance<a aria-hidden="true" class="anchor-heading icon-link" href="#romance"></a></h1>
Remember to never go to bed mad at each other
A good relationship principle is: whenever one has a complaint about the other, a promise should be made. One person should promise to work on the issue while the other promises to be patient with them.  
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<li>Ex. I say fuck a lot when frustrated, I promise to try to cut back and she promises to be patient and supportive (however that person feels would be the best way to be supported)</li>
</ul>
Interdependence theory
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<li>three determinants of whether a relationship will succeed
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<li>level of satisfaction
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<li>compared against an average benchmark of what constitutes a normal satisfying relationship</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>level of dependence</li>
<li>level of investment</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
if both individuals are satisfied with the intimacy levels, then sex can make up 10% of the overall satisfaction of a relationship. if there is dissatisfaction with the sex life however, those problems can make up 70% of the problems
never get "into it" about an event that happened years ago. just recuse yourself, "that event was so long ago that I cant possibly say with accuracy what may or may not have happened"
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Backlinks
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<li><a href="/notes/het26IMKUnKB7npru8tG4">Relationships</a></li>
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Romance

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