<h1 id="shame">Shame<a aria-hidden="true" class="anchor-heading icon-link" href="#shame"></a></h1>
<p>"Shame is the fear of not being worthy of connection"</p>
<ul>
<li>Brene Brown</li>
</ul>
<p>If you do something you regret or are shameful about, own the story. If you bury it and let it fester, then it defines you. It is history. However, if you own it, you get to write the ending. The story hasn't finished yet, and you get to make it right. When we bury the story, we forever stay the subject  if we own it, we get to narrate the ending.</p>
<p>Sometimes, narcissism is a shame-based fear of being ordinary</p>
<ul>
<li>sometimes humanizing problems like this sheds an important light on them, which often goes out as soon as a label is applied (see next point)</li>
<li>for this reason, it is not logical to place the blame on others for being the way they are. It is notdifficult to sympathize with people who are narcissistic, because they're simply a product of the times we're living in. In an age of social media addiction, phone addiction, reality TV shows... It is understandable that people might try and hold themselves to a standard that is simply unrealistic. If narcissism arises as a result of this reality, then it is hard to place the blame at the feet of the people.</li>
</ul>
<h1 id="causes-of-disengagement">Causes of disengagement<a aria-hidden="true" class="anchor-heading icon-link" href="#causes-of-disengagement"></a></h1>
<ul>
<li>protection against vulnerability, shame, and feeling lost without purpose</li>
<li>feeling like the people who are leading is are not fulfilling their end of the social contract
<ul>
<li>boss, teacher, parents, politicians etc.</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>

Shame

thoughts-on


Welcome to my Second Brain! Here you'll find thoughts, lessons, facts and any other interesting musings that I've come across or thought up over the years. A lot of what I have gathered is originally from the minds of others, while some of it originates from myself. Some notes may contain misinformation, though I try to be rigorous with my additions.

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## Tags
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## Resources
### UE (Unexamined) Resources
Often, I come across sources of information that I believe to be high-quality. They may be recommendations or found in some other way. No matter their origin, I may be in a position where I don't have the time to fully examine them (and properly extract notes), or I may not require the information at that moment in time. In cases like these, I will add reference to a section of the note called **UE Resources**. The idea is that in the future when I am ready to examine them, I have a list of resources that I can start with. This is an alternative approach to compiling browser bookmarks, which I've found can quickly become untenable.

### E (Examined) Resources
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### Resources
This heading is for inexhaustible resources. 
- A prime example would be a quality website that continually posts articles- another example would be a tool, such as software that measures frequencies in a room to help acoustically treat it.
